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C. M. Millen's avatar

Can’t we women just have spaces and places for ourselves? I think that is even more important than rankings.

No man can ever be a woman and can ever begin to understand what it’s like to be a women. And no one ever asked women if we wanted men barging in and treating women as “therapy dogs” for men who want to be women.

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Frank Lee's avatar

This is very interesting. As a long-time corporate manager having worked with many intelligent and capable men and women, and as a near human behavior scientists from all the education I have pursued on the topic to help me unravel the puzzles of workforce performance and achievement, my observation has been that everyone is different with respect to what I call their basic foundational brain wiring… with much of the negative aspects able to be overcome with practice and persistence and maybe some therapy. Jordan Peterson might label it personality, but I see another layer of cognitive function that is influenced by personality but is malleable.

But the stronger the foundation brain wiring is, the more difficult is overcoming it… the less malleable it is.

And my observation for females in general is that their brain wiring tends to cause them to value more group affiliation and less individual competition. I suspect this is biological… probably evolutionary. It is not impossible to overcome, but many female bosses, coworkers and employees really struggled with it. For example, they would not speak up in a team meeting even though they had an important contribution preferring instead to not cause conflict with a coworker. They would refuse a promotion where their coworker friends would report to them (management is lonely).

I think this tendency to focus on the human aspect of things causes a difficulty to contemplate the big picture of challenge or opportunity. The female brain is thinking “how will everyone including me feel about this thing?” vs “what can I do to get this thing accomplished?”. This might be a subtle difference, but in the dog-eat-dog world of high competition, it is often the competitive disadvantage.

Obviously there are many competitive female athletes. But I agree that there is an imbalance of competitiveness. Males more often see individual competition as a requirement. Their MO is to completely destroy the competition but, if moral, respect the competition. Females more often have internal noise in consideration for how their competition and others might feel about them destroying the competition. This difference works when females are competing with females and visa versa, but is fraught with challenges when genders compete with each other.

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