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Kathleen Lowrey's avatar

Thank you for this. I was frustrated that Burgo's essays appeared here when they seemed to me very hand-wavey. He is obviously an empathetic therapist, which is probably a good thing in the consulting room (though I suspect challenging patients on some of their ideas is another component of being a good therapist). The idea that women should share his level of empathy for men who want to come into their changing rooms and get naked: well, our experience suggests men in general and these men in particular might have some motivations for that which don't require compassion but instead a flat "nope".

This is quite apart from the goodness or badness of psychoanalysis: I say this as someone who thinks Freud's _Interpretation of Dreams_ is a truly brilliant book. But it's brilliant in the way novels are brilliant. It thoughtfully picks apart the life of the mind, the strange motivations we hide even from ourselves, the furious inventive busy-ness of the brain even while we are asleep. It does not present a "method" which can be taught, any more than reading and appreciating Tolstoy prepares one to write a novel of similar quality. I suppose I agree with Dr. Bailey that it is not scientific, but it can still usefully inform an attentive reader.

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I write this to ask if Prof. Bailey is aware that Sam Kaye detransitioned, and is no longer Maya? This "son of transitioner" was used long ago by you and Blanchard and Cantor as a "case study" for the theorized "father to son" link. Sam, the son, had all the surgeries 25 years ago, now tells the world how much he regrets them on his YouTube channel, Call Me Sam. Bob Withers, a Jungian therapist in the UK, mentioned your citation of Maya (now back to Sam) Kaye in your research literature. The father-son dyads in this social contagion clearly do not represent a genetic or biological link, and the contagion in families now demonstrates just how this cult appeals and grooms towards dangerous medical treatments. The pornography link, unlike the father-son link, is clear in AGP behavior, based on the information from wives described below. The recent small but growing wave of deaths from sepsis and kidney failure attest to the iatrogenic harm of treatments the Blanchard Protocol culminated in, now completely collapsed to months or even weeks from the original 2 years. (Griffin Sivret, natal female, 24--sepsis Liam Johns, natal female, 35--kidney failure Yarden Seveira, natal male, 24, sepsis/suicide Surgeries at lauded institutions, Boston Children's Hospital, Mount Sinai Hospital in Manhattan) Liver cancer is cited also recently in a Mayo Clinic study.

As the ex wife of an AGP who says he's "true trans" and also says he's me, the mother of our 2 grown sons, I'd like you, Michael Bailey, together with Cantor, Blanchard and Zucker to put out a statement that you now have some idea of the trauma caused by these men to the women they married and the children they fathered, by behavior actually sanctioned by therapists. You've never commissioned an independent parallel study of us, despite Ray Blanchard's famous quote, "Oh, the women don't like it." These men do not self-report their domestic violence, coercive control and sexual demands in their therapy sessions with your colleagues in the field.

I collect the only data in the world on trans widows, and my results include 64 of us. A steady third were sexually assaulted by lingerie-wearing husband. These men often had serious alcohol abuse issues. Also a steady third of us were physically assaulted, as in strangulation, shoving into a wall, being pushed down the stairs, held in a vise-like hold until involuntary urination occurred. In the case of the 5 rapes, 3 repeated rapes, by AGP husband, none were prosecuted, though 1 brutal rape was reported to the Met Police in London and DNA evidence and witness statements were collected.

We typically cannot use our given names when we tell of our experiences, as husband still threatens defamation, violence in some cases, and cancellation by his friends and allies frequently follows. The new documentary on us: Behind the Looking Glass at Lime Soda Films by cancelled auteur, Vaishnavi Sundar.

You need to watch it, Michael Bailey. The above rates of violence, ritual manipulation and coercive control are evident in the testimonies of the 18 of us in Behind the Looking Glass. In my data are many women who stayed for 2 or 5 or 10 years, and they covered up the violence they experienced while staying, often not speaking of it until years after getting out.

Here's the recent part 1 of my Gracie profile:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=386T-PB098k&t=17s

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