California Institutes Another Candyland Law
Letting kids be kids, rather than mandating costly laws and policies, is the best way to make children who do not engage in sex-typical play feel included.
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To ring in the upcoming new year, the State of California will once again legally enshrine a Candyland belief. In this case Assembly Bill 1084 that requires retail stores that employ more than 500 people across the State to maintain gender neutral childcare and toy sections. Failure to do so will result in a $250 fine for the first violation and $500 fines for each subsequent one.
In an interview with the Associated Press, the bill’s author Assemblyman Evan Low stated, “Thankfully, my colleagues recognized the pure intentions of this bill and the need to let kids be kids.” Implicit in this statement and the bill itself is the belief that various social forces, boy- and girl-toy sections in this instance, conspire to create various sex differences, proscribing some activities as appropriate for girls and others for boys and never the twain shall meet.
The belief echoes nostrums offered by gender studies professors and activists, but these don’t often contact reality. An example is provided by an essay in the academic journal Sex Roles, in which Dinella and Weisgram argue that children’s toy preferences are largely driven by subtle gender-related messages (e.g., dolls are for girls, trucks for boys) that create sex differences in these preferences and in other interests. Although these beliefs are widely held, they don’t hold up to scrutiny.
In a meta-analysis (a standard method for combining results across studies) of sex-related stereotypes, Tenenbaum and Leaper concluded that there is a modest relation between parents’ and their children’s beliefs about these stereotypes, but at the same time “parents’ gender schemas had a negligible association with children’s gender related interests,” including toy preferences. Moreover, children raised by parents who actively discourage sex typing have children with less stereotyped beliefs, but their toy and play preferences do not differ from those of children raised by parents with stereotyped beliefs. In other words, parents can believe what they will, and children will pick up on some of these beliefs, but it doesn’t much change their actual play behavior and interests.
If we follow Low’s advice to “let kids be kids,” we’ll find that during the preschool years and into childhood there is very little overlap in boys’ and girls’ suites of play behavior, including differences in the frequency of engagement in rough-and-tumble play, team sports, and doll and family play, among others. There are of course exceptions, but the differences are large and primarily driven by the inherent interests of children themselves, not by socially imposed messaging.
A recent meta-analysis indicated that 99 out of 100 boys have a stronger preference for toy vehicles than does the average girl and girls’ relative preference for dolls is even larger. These differences are related, at least in part, to prenatal and early postnatal exposure to male hormones that masculinizes boys’ play behavior and toy preferences, although there also appear to be subtle social influences.
It seems that the intent of this bill is to make children who do not engage in sex-typical play feel included, but mandating potentially costly and likely ineffective laws and policies is not the way to achieve this. The strategy here is to foster inclusion by obscuring or eliminating the inherent biases of boys and girls to engage in different forms of play and social relationships, but human nature cannot be legislated into oblivion. The vast majority of children will engage in sex-typical play regardless of which aisle they find the most attractive toys.
Aside from costs to retailers, the most this will achieve is to further confuse parents who are trying to be inclusive and accommodating when all they need to do is let kids be kids, whatever their preferences.
David C. Geary is a Curators’ Distinguished Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences and the Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program at the University of Missouri.
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They have to have it both ways, don't they. A 3 year old boy who likes to play with dolls and dress in his older sister's dance outfit is definitely really a girl and must be rushed into the maw of mutilation and mental illness, while having toy sections in stores appealing to the tastes of girls, and the interest of boys is BAD and must be stopped lest the little ones show their preference for toys relating to their biological sex. These ideologues have no judgment or common sense - they are mentally ill sadists, narcissists or psychopaths - maybe all 3.
John Money, the founder of the modern movement known as “gender identity” carried out an experiment on two brothers, one of whom had sadly lost his penis due to a botched circumcision at the age of 8 months. Money, to test his theory of gender identity, who the parents had turned to, urged them to raise this son as a girl, while continuing to raise his brother as a boy.
The boy whom Money wanted to be a girl received further surgeries to feminize his genitals, was given girls clothes, while the parents were instructed to socialize him as a girl. Money would thus prove his theory that one’s gender is not biological, but socially formed.
That boy, David Reimer, knew he was a boy. He didn’t want to play with the dolls that were given him, but his brother’s toy trucks and other boy toys. He also preferred to dress as a male and be treated as a male.
The story ends tragically, for John Money had molested the prepubescent boys in pursuit of proving his pet theory at their enormous expense. First David, then the other Reimer brother committed suicide shortly after reaching maturity.
That’s the sad story of pedophile perversion that undergirds our modern gender identity movement.