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PhilH's avatar

It is very sad how freedom of gender expression has become medicalized.

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A friend I went to high school with has become totally possessed by gender ideology and the effects are now seen in the "transitioning" of her 14 year old daughter. It's harrowing to watch the whole process like a slow motion train wreck. What's incredible is how intensely my friend seems to be promoting her daughter's transition; it's like she's thrown her whole being into it. (She's a very dominant type A character, the father is highly friendly but the kind of guy who is so passive, you have to check if he still has a pulse).

First I got an email about a year ago stating that the daughter was "identified female at birth" but now realizes she is boy, and therefore from here on out she will have a new boy name and we will all welcome her as the family's new son. My friend wrote that they do not regard this as a phase but rather as the daughter's ("son's") TRUE identity. (did I mention the girl is 14? Already finding her true identity?)

Charting the last year on Facebook, my friend is sure to mention in every post how proud she is of her son and her queer family (her other daughter, age 11, now goes by "they"). She post pics of her "son" (who looks like a bashful and sweet girl) and says stuff like, "this is who I'm fighting for", as she laments at all the hateful people in the world who would want to destroy their "queer joy" and rob her son of access to his life saving meds. I'm positive a mastectomy is on the way.

She's in a heterosexual marriage, but her social media is now filled with raving about the deep love of their "queer family" at parades, LGBTblahblah+ bake sales, flags flying everywhere, pride that her son is standing out (he joined the boys swim team), it all seems too much, like a crazy over-compensation. To be generous, I feel like my friend wants to support her daughter. My friend is also an incredibly partisan person who highly identifies with the liberal left. She seems like the ideal candidate to swallow this crazy gender ideology. Her social media reflects a sense that her family is incredibly special, on the right side of history, standing up against hateful oppression directly targeting them. I kind of suspect that as a (VERY) wealthy white liberal family who sees themselves as being so morally good, it's nice for them to be seen as even better in their circles now that they are also "oppressed".

To the author's point, girls who are non-gender conforming never had to face such high stakes until now. I can't express how gross it is to watch this sweet girl caught in the jaws of this sick ideology. To be clear, there is absolutely NOTHING I can say to my friend at this point. She has been completely ideologically captured --to question her would be an enemy attack, not just against the lives of LGBT(etc forever)+ but against all oppressed people everywhere in the world (per the logic of the greater postmodern intersectional framework that contains critical queer theory). So, I anticipate the mastectomy with dread, and pray for the power of the daughter's spirit to eventually sift through whatever deep family anxieties led the mother to enforce this mania and the father to remain a doormat.

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