That line about your young sister-in-law: "I wrote this for her but she is unwilling to read it" is heart-breaking. Thank you for your courage in speaking out. I hope you know how much you, like Jamie Reed, are helping other people.
Thank you for sharing your journey. I wish you the best as you move forward in your life. I am a 74 year old gay man. I also belong to Gays Against Groomers. I think it is very sad that people misled you. But it is awesome that you have a loving environment around you that supports and nurtures you.
> My issue was that everyone around me seemed obsessed with separating boys and girls by telling us what hobbies or friends we were allowed to have, something I did not understand.
Your experience was what it was, but I'm 67 and even when I was growing up the idea that either sex was 'not allowed' to have the hobbies typical of the other was already seen as a stone age attitude.
It’s crazy this stuff is stronger than ever. Growing up in the 80’s myself, there were no pink toy aisles and blue toy aisles. There were just toys. Mostly Lego and My Little Pony if I remember right. I liked both. Everybody wore dungarees or some other hideous hand-me-downs because why would you spend good money dressing your children in new expensive nonsense when they would grow out of it in two weeks? By the time I was 17 and leaving school my school uniform blazer was still so long on the arms only my fingers poked out the ends, because my mother had decided two years earlier she was sick of buying ever bigger ones and had just gone to the end of the scale and said “that one, for fuck’s sake! He can grow to ten feet tall and I’m bloody done with this!”. Smart and efficient. Even if I looked like a berk.
We like to think we live in an enlightened age, but the truth is in our decadence people just obsess about themselves and their children in really unhealthy ways.
For my final piece of evidence I give you the worst of the worst, the wellspring of this evil: the gender reveal party. Is there a more decadent, narcissistic neoritual? Just beg the universe your child arrives healthy! Be grateful! Argh
I have two nieces who are starting families and one of their greatest concerns is how they are going to protect their kids from all this. Public schooling is out of the question, and this before the kids are even born. Daycares that are run by sane people have been pre-sourced. Both girls understand the scale of the problem -- their kids will be born into an insane world that actively wants to either sterilize them or at least drive them crazy. And these kids will be white, which means they'll be moved to the back of every line. That's called 'privilege'.
Ok well I don’t think things are as dire as you believe. When you go offline people are mostly still quite sensible… mostly. Education however is a big one. It has perhaps been the area most infested with poisonous ideas. I have friends who are teachers and they are very down to earth, they just operate in a realm of fear that they will be castigated for saying something outrageous, like there are girls and boys. I truly believe that this storm is passing, though. I can only speak for where I am in Scotland, but women’s groups in particular are constantly petitioning and rabble rousing and pushing back a lot of the nonsense. I think a lot of states in the US are doing the same. Litigation is the key. Courts and judges overall tend to like things like “evidence” and “facts”, and so wokery just burns away in a court of law. Like a vampire in sunlight, it smokes, screams, and then poof, it’s just a nice day, no monsters here. The doom and gloom is their language, it doesn’t need to be yours. Have hope!
Sure, most people are still quite sensible, it's 'the system' that's the issue. As you say, education is the biggest threat.
> I truly believe that this storm is passing, though.
It's possible. On the one hand I can see it evaporating overnight, like the Satanic Panic. As I like to say 'Dead like Disco'. I'm even expecting this with trans. When the detransitioners start winning million dollar suits and the public mood shifts to seeing these butchers and opportunists for who they are, I expect that, overnight, a whole lot of people are going to forget that they were ever trans-activists. But with 'the institutions' -- government, education, media -- they are entrenched.
Bloody. Yeah sure, I suppose that kind of thing is always lurking in the shadows, but the Panic, like most witch hunts, mostly ruined the lives of perfectly innocent people.
Yes I think there is a tipping point with these things, so I hope that we’ll wake up one morning and it will be completely commonplace for people to say “oh I never believed all that gender woo nonsense” and everyone will quietly have stopped the asinine practice of putting their pronouns on everything like a morality badge.
If they want to put their magic pronouns in their email signatures and social media profiles, let them continue to do so, since it gives me advance warning to not engage them in conversation and get an earful of "my gender identity."
It's when they try to get people fired for forgetting to use today's magic pronouns that it matters, or when we have to sit though a, all-day session of "inclusion training" that I need to draw a line.
Your story took my breath away. Thank you for sharing, it was beautifully written. I would expect this piece, like Jamie Reed's, could open eyes and change lives as well.
Wonderful article. Truly enlightening to read about your life. I know Americans would say “your journey”. But it’s your life, and I thank you for sharing this and writing so well
I live in Montgomery Al and my “progressive” friends roll their eyes and say that doesn’t happen around here. Will show them this article for sure. Thanks for being brave!
Thank you for sharing. So beautifully written and I hope you are finding your peace and happiness. I should know not to sneakily read these at work!! I keep crying. I’m so happy for you.
This remarkable story exemplifies the dangers of "gender," meaning cross-sex ideation for those with disabilities. The cult is overjoyed to "be inclusive" but completely unconcerned regarding accurate and responsible communication.
I'm waiting for a section on this in The WPATH Files. Here's a link to quotes from a WPATH surgeon admitting that "complications" of surgeries to insert a tissue tube into the male pelvic region are almost inevitable, because "there's no room" between the prostate and the rectum.
Thank you for this. When you mentioned your sister-in-law my heart skipped a beat. It feels like this never ends but people like you, telling the truth, will hopefully put an end to the madness.
Who is being held to account for this? This should at least involve massive malpractice suits and loss of licensure etc. I hope those cases are coming...
That line about your young sister-in-law: "I wrote this for her but she is unwilling to read it" is heart-breaking. Thank you for your courage in speaking out. I hope you know how much you, like Jamie Reed, are helping other people.
Thank you for sharing your journey. I wish you the best as you move forward in your life. I am a 74 year old gay man. I also belong to Gays Against Groomers. I think it is very sad that people misled you. But it is awesome that you have a loving environment around you that supports and nurtures you.
"sharing your journey"
Must you?
> My issue was that everyone around me seemed obsessed with separating boys and girls by telling us what hobbies or friends we were allowed to have, something I did not understand.
Your experience was what it was, but I'm 67 and even when I was growing up the idea that either sex was 'not allowed' to have the hobbies typical of the other was already seen as a stone age attitude.
It’s crazy this stuff is stronger than ever. Growing up in the 80’s myself, there were no pink toy aisles and blue toy aisles. There were just toys. Mostly Lego and My Little Pony if I remember right. I liked both. Everybody wore dungarees or some other hideous hand-me-downs because why would you spend good money dressing your children in new expensive nonsense when they would grow out of it in two weeks? By the time I was 17 and leaving school my school uniform blazer was still so long on the arms only my fingers poked out the ends, because my mother had decided two years earlier she was sick of buying ever bigger ones and had just gone to the end of the scale and said “that one, for fuck’s sake! He can grow to ten feet tall and I’m bloody done with this!”. Smart and efficient. Even if I looked like a berk.
We like to think we live in an enlightened age, but the truth is in our decadence people just obsess about themselves and their children in really unhealthy ways.
For my final piece of evidence I give you the worst of the worst, the wellspring of this evil: the gender reveal party. Is there a more decadent, narcissistic neoritual? Just beg the universe your child arrives healthy! Be grateful! Argh
I have two nieces who are starting families and one of their greatest concerns is how they are going to protect their kids from all this. Public schooling is out of the question, and this before the kids are even born. Daycares that are run by sane people have been pre-sourced. Both girls understand the scale of the problem -- their kids will be born into an insane world that actively wants to either sterilize them or at least drive them crazy. And these kids will be white, which means they'll be moved to the back of every line. That's called 'privilege'.
Ok well I don’t think things are as dire as you believe. When you go offline people are mostly still quite sensible… mostly. Education however is a big one. It has perhaps been the area most infested with poisonous ideas. I have friends who are teachers and they are very down to earth, they just operate in a realm of fear that they will be castigated for saying something outrageous, like there are girls and boys. I truly believe that this storm is passing, though. I can only speak for where I am in Scotland, but women’s groups in particular are constantly petitioning and rabble rousing and pushing back a lot of the nonsense. I think a lot of states in the US are doing the same. Litigation is the key. Courts and judges overall tend to like things like “evidence” and “facts”, and so wokery just burns away in a court of law. Like a vampire in sunlight, it smokes, screams, and then poof, it’s just a nice day, no monsters here. The doom and gloom is their language, it doesn’t need to be yours. Have hope!
Sure, most people are still quite sensible, it's 'the system' that's the issue. As you say, education is the biggest threat.
> I truly believe that this storm is passing, though.
It's possible. On the one hand I can see it evaporating overnight, like the Satanic Panic. As I like to say 'Dead like Disco'. I'm even expecting this with trans. When the detransitioners start winning million dollar suits and the public mood shifts to seeing these butchers and opportunists for who they are, I expect that, overnight, a whole lot of people are going to forget that they were ever trans-activists. But with 'the institutions' -- government, education, media -- they are entrenched.
Frankly, in retrospect it seems like there might have been something to the satanic panic after all.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLV11Bw6e4qQX6T65VwsELYzSNSYobR13F
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLV11Bw6e4qQWxBhLAhhyvpnQy8jUtw-bt
Bloody. Yeah sure, I suppose that kind of thing is always lurking in the shadows, but the Panic, like most witch hunts, mostly ruined the lives of perfectly innocent people.
Yes I think there is a tipping point with these things, so I hope that we’ll wake up one morning and it will be completely commonplace for people to say “oh I never believed all that gender woo nonsense” and everyone will quietly have stopped the asinine practice of putting their pronouns on everything like a morality badge.
Sadly the physical damage will not go away that easily.
If they want to put their magic pronouns in their email signatures and social media profiles, let them continue to do so, since it gives me advance warning to not engage them in conversation and get an earful of "my gender identity."
It's when they try to get people fired for forgetting to use today's magic pronouns that it matters, or when we have to sit though a, all-day session of "inclusion training" that I need to draw a line.
I live in a country where students wear school uniforms. Boys and girls wear the same clothes. The uniformity isn't hurting them.
We don't live in Leave It To Beaver anymore. These "gender role" reasons are obsolete as slide rules and VHS tapes.
Your story took my breath away. Thank you for sharing, it was beautifully written. I would expect this piece, like Jamie Reed's, could open eyes and change lives as well.
Wonderful article. Truly enlightening to read about your life. I know Americans would say “your journey”. But it’s your life, and I thank you for sharing this and writing so well
Thank you for being so honest and brave.
Just beautiful! So clear and honest! I wish you the very best in your future
I live in Montgomery Al and my “progressive” friends roll their eyes and say that doesn’t happen around here. Will show them this article for sure. Thanks for being brave!
Wishing you lots of peace and happiness in the years ahead. You sound like a beautiful person. 💖
Colin, we need to get these detransitioner accounts into the academic literature. They will be primary sources for historians of this moment.
You tell a heartrending and beautiful story. Your journey back to yourself, with the support of your husband, is amazing.
Thank you for sharing. So beautifully written and I hope you are finding your peace and happiness. I should know not to sneakily read these at work!! I keep crying. I’m so happy for you.
This remarkable story exemplifies the dangers of "gender," meaning cross-sex ideation for those with disabilities. The cult is overjoyed to "be inclusive" but completely unconcerned regarding accurate and responsible communication.
I'm waiting for a section on this in The WPATH Files. Here's a link to quotes from a WPATH surgeon admitting that "complications" of surgeries to insert a tissue tube into the male pelvic region are almost inevitable, because "there's no room" between the prostate and the rectum.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FsFDoWJP8fo&t=7s
This is so beautiful. Thank you for writing it. I wish you could talk to my daughters…
Thank you for this. When you mentioned your sister-in-law my heart skipped a beat. It feels like this never ends but people like you, telling the truth, will hopefully put an end to the madness.
Who is being held to account for this? This should at least involve massive malpractice suits and loss of licensure etc. I hope those cases are coming...